‘I need you to do some of your NLP things on me?!’
It’s a plea I hear fairly frequently and I may well be different other NLP coaches out there but I don’t ‘do’ things ‘to’ you so much as help you better understand yourself and the world around you, with the help of the understanding NLP has given me.
And yes, there are tools within NLP that can help that change and understanding come more quickly but please don’t think of it as being a set of mind tricks that someone can ‘do’ to you.
YOU do the work (I’m there facilitating but YOU’RE the one whose mind is getting a run for it’s money!)
YOU get to understand how powerful YOUR mind is because when whatever shift you’re after happens you’ll notice that nothing has really changed other than your perspective.
NLP is a life hack….because all we really need to live a life less complicated is to understand our experience of life comes from the inside out. When we REALLY get that, life gets a WHOLE lot easier xxx
I’ve got no interest in building a hugely successful career/business at the detriment of the rest of my life.
I LOVE my work AND I love my family, my friends and having fun too , and see no reason why I can’t enjoy ALL of this. So I do.
I make conscious choices every day to create the balance in my life and work that works for me and the people I love.
I’m fortunate that running a business means I get to call the shots although that doesn’t mean it’s easy….for example without careful planning and executing on those plans I could easily end up with little income down the line!
I say that because there are pros and cons to ALL of our life choices….whether you’re in business, have a job or are caring for your loved ones, it’s important not to get distracted by other people’s circumstances.
And we’ve ALL had the grass is greener and it’s easier for them moments!
‘They have more time.’
‘They have more money.’
‘They have a better job.’
‘They have a better boss.’
‘They have children.’
‘They don’t have children’.
‘They don’t have MY children.’
‘They have more support.’
‘They have a partner.’
‘They don’t have MY partner.’
‘They don’t have the health difficulties I do.’
‘They have more confidence.’
And on the comparisons go to convince yourself it’s easier for ‘them’ than it is you to experience a balanced and fulfilling life.
But THEY ARE NOT YOU so stop giving your power away!!
No matter how you are spending your time right now, YOU are the centre of YOUR life & YOU are the driving force behind your experience. We ALL have priorities to juggle to experience the life and work we REALLY want.
It’s about feeling in the driving seat of your life, that it’s YOUR choice to be doing what you’re doing and you’re not constantly dropping balls as a result and then beating yourself up at your crap juggling skills!
It’s about becoming aware of what you want and figuring out how you can make that happen.
Because you can!
I know, you keep thinking you want more out of your life and work than you’ve experienced so far but you’re just not quite sure how to go about actually making it happen. So you stay doing what your doing, feeling more and more fed up and frustrated by the day.
That’s ok though…so put away that stick you’ve been beating yourself up with (yeah I seen you)!
You’re far from alone and while you might not believe it right now, you’ve got absolutely everything you need to take that next step and really truly start creating the life and work you want.
Sure you keep saying you don’t know what you want…but we both know you’re kidding yourself on so let’s stop playing that game. You’re just scared that admitting what you REALLY want means changing a lotta stuff (like no longer settling for the less than best version of yourself) and you’re not sure if you’re READY for that yet.
I get it, because I’ve been there…that gorgeously familiar comfort zone that sucks the life blood from you. You’re desperate to break free but terrified at the same time as it’s all you know.
If that’s you, really hear this – everything WILL be ok.
I’m not saying it’s going to be smooth and I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, you’re exploring uncharted territory after all, but YOU WILL BE OK.
So my invitation to you is this, create the space and time to listen and trust yourself.
Truly admit to and own your dreams and aspirations to create the life and work you REALLY want. And then do something about it.
With love xx